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Saturday, May 3, 2014

A Letter to the Bride...

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One of my best childhood friends is getting married today. I won't be there. I wasn't invited. Trust me, I'm not shocked by this. She wasn't invited to my wedding either. But, it still makes me sad. 

I grew up with Kim. We were in the same Kindergarten class. I had play dates at her house and she was one of my first sleepovers. As time went on, we played soccer together & transitioned to middle school. Eventually she got her license & picked me up for school every day in the "man machine." She was the first person to ever get me drunk - on slow rum & coke - a combination that still makes me smile. Her house parties were legendary. 

Kim didn't have it easy. I was at her father's funeral. I watched her mom & her grow apart. I saw her have to find her own way & build her own support system. For a long time, my family was apart of that system as she worked at my parent's restaurant, which really isn't surprising because all of my friends worked by my side growing up. We were a pretty tight knit group all the way through graduation. 


I won't go into details on how our friendship ended. I will tell you that I said things that I know she didn't want to hear, and I will admit that it probably wasn't my place to say them either. At the time though, I was worried about her & felt I had to do something. Shortly after, she stopped working for my family & we've barely spoken since. I hate that it ended that way, 16 years worth of friendship, over after one conversation. I wish we'd made up after a couple of days, but we didn't. And after a certain amount of time goes by, you just don't know how to reach out... 


I know she's doing well. We still have mutual friends & we still follow one another on Facebook. She occasionally "likes" a picture of Ella, just as I do with her vacation pictures. Even though I'm not there today, I want her to know that I'm proud of her and I wish her all the best in the world. She's going to be a beautiful bride... 

1 comment :

  1. This is the kindest letter for this situation! Altho not brides, I would certainly like to be able to write this someday to a few people ....

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